I meant murderer not in a legal way - but in the United States, killing someone while drunk is often treated as murder: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Vehicular_homicide#United_States

No one sets out to be a statistic of course.

But we treat drunk driving differently, and for a very good reason. When I was young, the toll from drunk driving was incredibly high, because if you killed someone while driving drunk it was considered an accident.

Society decided to discourage people and treat the act of getting into a car while drunk as tantamount to attempted murder.

Death rates fell dramatically: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Motor_vehicle_fatality_rate_in_U.S._by_year

If this mother were simply mourning her child, I'd say nothing. It's the subtext of, "I'm a better person than the mother of the person my son killed" that is enraging - but I am preaching to the choir here.

Thanks for a calm and well-thought-out comment!